Desteni – When your principles are for sale - when shit get's though the real self pops out.

A bit about why Desteni is the most difficult message and when do we sell out our principles. both points are related in a strange way. 

Why is Desteni the most difficult message in the world to spread and to also give forth to others? In a nutshell, because it isn’t a positive message (according to people’s perception of positive) and it does not fit into anything you have ever heard about or thought possible.

For example the portal, who has ever heard of a portal, a human being that can leave their body and bring through ANYTHING in this existence to communicate and share, and now you can’t even start to imagine what exist here in this existence, what we can see and not see, how much do we NOT see or are even aware of? The portal can bring it through, and thus what comes through and what the messages are, like Reptilian beings, Atlanteans, Jesus or a rock, a blade of grass or animals, name it all and so much more. I mean, imagine now hearing what they all have to share and how we have been brainwashed to belief things, what our perceptions are of reality and how our perception has been shaped and conditioned from birth, we cannot even start to think this is true or real.

Now – I can go into a lot more, but I would suggest you take a moment and read this book THE HISTORY OF DESTENI and do not take my word for it and read the book, it is worth your time, to see what Bernard Poolman has to share  on how everything was directed and pushed to what is now today Desteni, the message, the process, the journey, and WHY it is here, to change ourselves, to prepare ourselves for crossing over, to stand as life, and to not only do that BUT to in this life change this world, by becoming active, becoming living examples and taking a stand to stop the abuse that exists here.

What makes Desteni unique and definitely one of a kind is that it provides information that is actual education and that actually empowers a person to understand existence, to understand creation and thus to actually be able to CHANGE self, rebirth self. this isn’t a positive message as what so many groups out there promote (positive messages) or even information that still just share surface points on how we can change ourselves, because that’s what all other groups lack, it is detailed, it is specificity of creation and thus how we can change, the mechanics of LIFE, and what we need to know to really change ourselves aren’t the beautiful things, it is to realize the reality, the real shit that is here as US as who we have accepted and allowed ourselves to exist as for eons of time.

Now, through Desteni you hear about Equality and oneness, you hear and learn about the mind, the body and how everything is programmed, how we have literally come to exist through being designed, and how we have to stop running as robots and rebirth ourselves as life, and this is where it gets really though, the MIND as consciousness which is a tool that has become our master has complete and total control on what exist here, each and every human is a slave of the mind, and we have literally created systems within this world that reflects US as the human and what we have accepted and allowed us to be outwards, and so we are in a Prison within and without, slaves forever, unless we take a path that is in reverse, that actually requires WILL power to walk and not to hope for motivation or automation to do it, which is the Desteni process and message.

Now, people do not want to hear this, people do not want to believe this, people do not even want to give Desteni a chance and immediately run away or fight, a typical fight or flight program of the mind. Then, those who do hear and see the Desteni message tend to FALL, because the mind once again has dominance and the being as the person has NO say.

I have lived through lots of this myself, the mind directing me, my thoughts feelings and emotions being my master, I have walked this process and LIVED it here on the Desteni farm for 9 years now, and I KNOW how hard this is, I know the challenges, and I know knowing is never enough, and living corrections are though.

That’s what giving birth is all about, a labours moment, it is painful, it has struggles, it has blood, it has pain, it has challenges, it has resistance, but once all of that is over a new life is born, and this is what the Desteni process is all about, rebirthing ourselves as life, so that we know who we are always, in this life and form and in death, there must be no difference, obviously only when Death comes can we stand, or if we are willing to leave our bodies by will, then we can know, as what we have as an example as the portal, where the being in the portal can leave her body at will.

Over the past 9 years, we at Desteni with this message, with all the information and Bernard Poolman and a portal, we have over time become quite a group of people standing in principle and walking a process of rebirthing ourselves using the tools that has been provided and thus SHARING ourselves within this journey as supporting ourselves and reaching out to others – this became a big thing on the internet for a while and so we got feedback from others – the feedback was hateful, spiteful and we have been labelled many things, such as being a cult or just another business making money. Bernard Poolman got the most abuse and the Portal, as Bernard Poolman was used as the reason for why Desteni is a cult for example and that he was some guru or leader of the cult.

Then Bernard Poolman passed away in 2013 and basically the VOICE that spread the message the most and penetrating people’s lives went quiet. BUT Desteni is still here today after almost 4 years now. Which in a way proofed every single hater and person that called Desteni a Cult wrong and that they actually just feared the truth, I mean, it is common that we all know people cannot handle the truth and instead fight for lies, so this was an obvious case. BUT these haters caused a lot of harm and damage to individual’s personal lives because of their LIES and spreading of misinformation, financially they harmed some individuals and on an emotional level with their relatives, so who was actually harming? The haters were and are really abusive and they didn’t care at all the abuse they are and were creating as long as they could feel strong and powerful in being RIGHT in proving Bernard Poolman as a Cult leader, harming people, yet they caused ALL the harm and actually started it and instigated it by the very moment as the first time they attached the word CULT to Desteni they immediately inflicted HARM on everyone walking with Desteni – interesting how these people claiming to be good and having good intentions ended up being the only people harming.

So, we faced a lot of conflicts and a lot of attacks came our way just for exposing the truth, the reality of what is here.

Ok, so that is just a bit of background information but not ALL of it, to find out more I would suggest visiting the Desteni forums and get on board with checking things out for yourself.

Back to the current blog and why Desteni is the most difficult message and why it is difficult to reach people.

Besides it not being a positive message but a truth of what is here, Desteni does not promote ANY profit gain for those that join and walk with. And this is thus another negative, as most people in this world do EVERYTHING for themselves and making money in some way, check it out, people will go out of their way to make a social platform grow, or to support a new upcoming group or movement as long as there is a promise of making money somewhere in there, suddenly people are motivated, suddenly people want to see it succeed, because they will personally profit and make money, and this is the difference with Desteni and all other platforms, We are not making promises or anything for anyone to make money, so people leave, because self-change just isn’t enough, changing this world isn’t enough to motivate a person, money plays a BIG role in the brainwashing and control within this world. Especially with how things are moving within this world, people will give up their principles to rather start moving and directing themselves for money, where there is a possible investment for self-profit.

This is why Desteni has been seeing a decline in growth and movement, because it is proofing the brainwashing and control that exist within everyone, where money direct, where money has the power, where people can change their principle and stance for a few more pennies, that’s what Judas did to Jesus, so it is very interesting to see how money can change anything and everyone, even when it means selling out LIFE.

Let me take this further – when people join positive groups that give positive messages for change like Depack Chopra or Eckhart Tolle, or even Osho, they are more than willing to openly support them because even their messages are a possible way of making more money in their lives, or helping with relationships and thus money, where Desteni says, shit is going to get real, you are going to face yourself, you are going to have to be financially stable and walk your process for a moment where probably nothing in your life will improve, because you are now getting fucking real, Desteni isn’t a positive message and self-interest and self-gain isn’t part of the message, it is always about self as what is best for all life, it is about actually changing and becoming an effective human being, not an effective money making machine or relationship guru as people hope and dreams for.

Desteni do not support self-interest and thus reaching people is SOO difficult, because what brainwashed human being cares about anything more than their own survival, their own money, their own relationships, and giving all of that up to stand as LIFE (now giving up here does not mean literally, but internal to not be controlled by the designs).

So, as the world runs towards an economic crisis (constantly) and politics are frightening people and everything is becoming more and more cramped, the nature of the human as self-interest overwrites principle as if the principle never existed, and this is exposing even more how fucked we are actually and controlled by the mind and slaves to these systems and designs, and just proves how programmed we are in FEAR – just like how Jesus was betrayed for a few silver coins by Judas as Judas gave money and fear a change instead of LIFE.

21 Days Self Forgiveness Challenge Day 1 (day 586) - Money

I am going to do a 21 Day self-forgiveness challenge, where I write a Blog every single day specifically with self-forgiveness. I encourage you to Join me on this 21 Days, I will be taking on all the Main topics and who I am currently within these Topics, this is Money, sex, relationships, work and so on.

Take Note, I do this Self Forgiveness not just on points of what is HERE but also what I have walked or from way back in the past. Yet everything remains relevant.

Day 1 – Money

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to GIVE money power over who I am.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge money as good or bad.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that money is the problem.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge other people and their relationship towards money, with money.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to deny that I like money.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to deny that I want money.

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see and realize that it is the reasons for why I want or desire money that matters.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear saying I want money and lots of it to change this world.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear being direct with working with money within my purpose.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge myself as BAD for wanting money.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge others as bad for wanting money.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to build morality around money as if it defines who I am, yet I must define money around who I am, and as long as I stand for life, as that which is best for all life, then money can never define me, but only aid in my purpose to being about equality on earth for ALL life.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to FEAR the system and how the system will view me as the people if I am openly saying I need Billions to change this world and I need to people to do so, and I thus need to money to make shit move.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to NOT see and realize that the system has programmed me to Fear making money openly, and having lots of it openly for the right reasons, as the system wants to keep it secret, where only those that makes Billions can do so in secret and get away with greed and self-interest.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to Fear that if I have a lot of money that the system will judge me, seeing and realizing that it is only me judging me based on my believes that I have created towards money and those that have it, seeing and realizing that I am not judging money, I am judging what others with LOTS of money has done with that money and it has never been what is best for all life, and so I have confused money with Evil and missed the point of who is making the money do what it is doing, the human, and thus I see and realize this is how the system scares people away from money, so that only the evil remains in control of the money pot, and not those that actually care about LIFE.

I forgive myself that I have denied myself the facts of who I am with money and when I have money.

I forgive myself that I have accepted MONEY as something that is PERSONAL between a person and themselves.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to make money a touchy subject in LIFE with myself and with other people’s money.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to SEE the money people have and what I have as MINE or THEIRS and thus it is very personal to talk about, in fact something to avoid, something to help others keep secret, and this only comes from my secret relationship that I have created with money and know that I cannot speak openly about MY money matters and thus must “respect” other people’s money matters as well, in other words, other people’s secrets., thus only respecting money control, money enslavement, secret mind shit, dishonesty, evil.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I will make enemies when and as I speak and talk about other people’s money or question them about their money, as I see and realize that this is only my fear and how I will react to others if they had to question my money spending, and what I do with my money, while I claim a GOOD soul, that I am a good person, yet my bank account will only show that I care about myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to HIDE my money reasoning within me as a secret, how much money I truly have, how I actually spend my money, where my money actually goes, as I know my relationship towards money is deceptive and dishonest and will never be able to stand in front of LIFE and say, this is how I spend my money.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to take QUICKLY advantage of the money that I do have while I have it, knowing Billions does not have the money, and to indulge in MY own life, and to only quickly, just for now enjoy my money, to fuck around with the money I have, as the system knows, every man is only in it for himself, and that’s why money can never be used or directed to change a better world, because no one will be able to give up his secret ways of how he is spending money.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I have choice as long as I have money YET I can never make the choice of spending my money to bring about a world that is best for all life, that I will only care about my own self-interest, my own personal life and improvement, yet my money must only remain with me, it is mine, yet claim I am not greedy, that those other people are greedy, yet I am living like a little roach, in secret collecting my own shit to stock up my own life, equally the same, and Place blame and judgement to those that do the same but only with MORE and bigger amounts of money, thus still blaming the money instead of seeing that the nature within me that I accept and allow is within all, and thus I cannot cast a stone, as I am equally as guilty as any other man/women that I say is evil, that I say is greedy, because our natures are the same and as long as I accept and allow this nature within me, then I in their shoes would do exactly the same.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to HIDE away from my responsibility towards LIFE behind money, in fear of having to GIVEUP my money to support life, to support what is best for all life, and to within this only give as little as possible to make myself feel good, through charities, through NPO’s and through all the ways the system is giving false outlets to make one feel good to where change is happening, yet nothing is changing as the giving isn’t real, it is feeling based, and nothing will change, because as self is the direct reflection of not wanting to actually change and give up all your money to bring about a world that is best for all life, so why would charities of NPO’s change the world? They are only as good and strong and genuine as I/you are, and that’s currently really weak, because weakness is supporting weakness and thus supporting each others abuse, as long as YOU/I can feel good and the charities and NPO’s religions, name them all are making you feel good, then well, mission accomplished. Because it is always minimal.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to give money power over LIFE, over my beingness, over my Authority.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be influenced by money, the picture of money, the numbers that resemble money and to be consumed by the energy within me created through that stimulation in that moment of seeing money, where this energy takes over any awareness point within me and my life starts revolving around money, what I can do with the money, how I will spend the money, how my life suddenly have a relieve.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be addicted to money, where if I receive my pay check – that moment is the same as me receiving a needle in my arm, where I feel good for a moment, even though I had to sell my body and soul all month to receive this money, and to in that moment of being high forget everything, where I will now gladly move again within the same routine for the next month just to receive that cash injection, that security, and as I go along with the month and I spend my money out of fear of not having money, besides on basic needs, just so that I can feel I had money, I could spend money, even if it means having that one take away meal, and as the money run dry during the month, I go into a total polarity, where anxiety and fears are once again revealed, as if I am withdrawing from the high and going into the low, working harder, and wishing the month will end now just so that I can get that high again, that cash injection and so repeat, seeing and realizing that I am an addict to money, I am a slave to money as long as I continue this mind relationship within energy towards money. Instead of doing the same, but not for the pay-check living, but instead directing each month as practical as I can and to not go into the junky mode and spend my money of what I know can bring change, or create it as what’s best for all LIFE.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be blind to this relationship that I have created towards money within myself, where I am actually a junky, a capitalist junky that enjoys an unequal system, even though it is abusive to me and towards everyone else.

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see and realize that this relationship of a junky that I have created towards and with money is exactly how the system has designed the money system, as the system was designed by US/HUMANS and that we as humans know that we actually have no clue who we are and thus we can give into energy and enjoy the ride of a junky, as long as it gives us a “purpose” and meaning in this life, running from pay check to pay check, getting high for a while, does not matter how long it lasts, a homeless man receiving even a few coins a month and barely feeding himself is still, equally trapped by this money junky system.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to BLAME money for the relationship I have created and accepted and allowed towards and with it, and to within this Blame become lame, and so I play innocent as if I am trapped in this fear, this survival, this point of struggling, yet it is my addiction to money that is the real problem, the money going in and out, and how my relationship changes as my survival is challenged every single time, yet doing nothing to change this system, as the junky is addicted and only cares for the injections and to survive as long as possible to have this high till death.

I forgive myself that I haven’t seen and realized that it is my relationship that I have towards money that is my problem and not money in itself, and as soon as I change the relationship I have towards money, can I actually start working with money properly, as money must have NO control over me, no matter how the mind wants to rationalize it, no matter how the minds want to induce fear for me to fall a slave to an energy system of enslavement, I must stand and I must breathe and I must move and direct myself with money always as what is best for all life and NOT just for myself, or I am simply supporting my addiction, and we know how clever an addict is to keep on having his high.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hate the fact that my life is in controlled by and through money and how much money I have.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame money for how I am experiencing myself as, and within survival within this world, and that my life is constantly threatened.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hate money and the money system when I do not have money, when there is a lack of money and to only want to change the world and want a different world when I do not have money.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to love money when I have money, when I can do what I want to do, and to forget about the world and everyone else when I have money and to completely forget about all my problems.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have a love/hate relationship within and towards this world system of money.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be controlled by money through having a love/hate relationship towards money and the world system.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have developed a polarity based relationship towards money within myself, where I fear for money and indulge within money.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a secret mind relationship with and towards money within myself, where I feel in control and powerful when and as I do have money, but as soon as the money runs out, I feel powerless and weak and like everything is out of control, unpredictable.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to NOT see and realize that I have directly created who I am as my relationship with myself with money, where who I am changes as money in my reality changes, depending on how much or little I have.

Day 484 - From Relationship to Agreement Part 5

Follow the rest of this thread through reading my previous posts.

Day 480 – From Relationship to Agreement Part 1
Day 481 – From Relationship to Agreement Part 2
Day 482 – from relationship to agreement Part 3

Day 483 –From relationship to agreement Part 4

 
Continuing from my previous blog.

Last blog ended with: “And how did I come to now stand in an Agreement with another human being? and how have I changed myself extensively within what a “relationship” means? Stay tuned for more in detail bits of stories and perspectives on how I have gone from a relationship to an Agreement and what that means.”

Continuation:

How did I go from a relationship to an agreement? Well I was first introduced to the concept, and then after being introduced to the concept, I had a lot to consider in my life.
The concept came to me through Desteni, an online group of people that participate within a new way of living. Completely off the charts. People who are in the process of investigating all things and keeping what is good.

The word good has to be redefined to understand the concept and what’s about to unveil. The word good has to be seen in the light of “what is best for all LIFE” that is what is good from now on, when one look at their own actions and reasoning and thoughts/mind and what is it one is doing, one must always do “good” and now using the new definition of good as “doing what’s best for all LIFE” we can see how that places everything into a different perspective.

Now we have to also quickly redefine “LIFE”, what is it when I say LIFE, life is what is HERE as all things that is here right now as the past, present and future, life is the word that express all things in the universe, from the unknown to the known, and that life is all of it at the same time here. It is never separate, it is never not part of itself, yes life expresses itself in different shapes/forms and sounds and colors and all the things that is here, yet it is the exact same thing, it is me, it is you, you and me are one in fact. Life is the word that shows/that brings all things in the universe into one word as once point of consideration in one word to express it all in one go. Life is the word that is me it is you it is the next deadly virus, it is the most evil of people on the planet, it is poverty and it is war, it is everything.

Now the concept has to expand a bit more, so we understand that we are all one now, but what does is mean when I add in we are one and equal in all ways? This is another concept that was introduced to me and explained to me with quite simple common sense, and the best part was I did not have to believe what was told to me or expressed to me, I could in fact test it out for myself, I could in fact take up writing and other tools to investigate this new found concept of “one and equal in all ways” and check it out for myself, this is where I started investigating my past relationships, and I found exactly that equation to be true. Because we are all ONE in all ways, thus we are in fact EQUAL in the substance that we are, and thus we are also always equal within Who I am decides what I create, it is one and equal.

Now the concept has taken many turns, it now has taken on a theory inside my head, it is has taken a grip as I could now see with different eyes, I could look at life and see myself, I could take LIFE that is here and I could see that everything that is here as me as life is a reflection of me, as above so below, as within so without. So much started making sense to me in my daily living, all the small things I was always confused about, I could now find answers for myself and utilize common sense, which I found was none existent within me. But having this new concept to live by, I could now filter how I look at life through this concept first and see different results.

But why would I want to do any of this? Why not just keep living the old way, the way that I was raised by my family and community and society? Isn’t that just simpler.

No! in fact it isn’t simpler – I first thought it is simpler, till I actually started applying these new concepts in my daily living, I started making these concepts Principles to live by, they now started moving from theories and concepts to actual living, to actual principles. Because I realized one thing, if I am LIFE as all that is HERE as the universe (you in reverse(from who you currently are as believing to be separate and different)) one and equal in all ways, then I am actually pretty messed up (fucked up) and so is everyone else, it just took a bit more effort to look outside my own life and seeing everyone and everything as part of me and what’s being done to everything and everyone all the time, and who wouldn’t really want to change.

So once I have now gotten a understanding of these new concepts/facts and principles, I now realized I had to apply this not just within myself as myself all the time, as I am actually still actively living in this world, and thus I have to apply myself within ALL my relationships I have (body/food/living/work etc), and of course, the one relationship that most, including me, make the important life deciding one, a one on one relationship with another being, intimately, romantically, sexually, and eventually creating a life and creating lives such as babies within this one relationship and applying this new way that is bets for all LIFE.

And this is where an agreement starts coming in.

To be continued.

Day 483 – From Relationship to Agreement Part 4

To see what I am writing about read my previous blogs.

Day 480 – From Relationship to Agreement Part 1
Day 481 – From Relationship to Agreement Part 2
Day 482 – from relationship to agreement Part 3

 


From Previous Blog:

“We chatted for hours every day on our phones, sharing every small detail and just being involved with each other, what we started at our first time meeting just continued the same, it didn’t become something that had to be kept alive, we were just natural in being with each other over the phone and what we talked about.”

Continuing

So now I have met a girl that I have made my soul mate. It wasn’t destined to be that way by some higher force at work, I decided that. I decided that this girl will be my soul mate. I did this through totally integrating her and her life into mine, I took in all of her no matter what, I accepted her as who she is. And of coursed love her for that till the end of time as I promised.
The decisions that influenced me to make her my soul mate is quite revealing.

First of all – she was what the system define as “hot/sexy” and she was smart, she also had a good back ground, meaning her monetary life, she wasn’t struggling or living in a dump, she was well off. Almost equal to my monetary standing within the system, we both shared equal opportunity in making it within the system, like getting jobs and making money. These are evaluating points that I and most people check before we then decide to have a relationship and “love” someone lol. And of course all of this takes place only after one has already evaluated the other person sexually, there was an attraction, something that gets your attention and of course you personally can look at daily.

Once these two points fit one’s own preprogrammed profile – it is a soul mate. Simple as that. Sometimes guys go in for the purpose of just getting the sex, even if the monetary evaluation did not add up, and guys are willing to live with that even for sex, girls not so easy. But still do depending on their monetary situation in life, and how much they think their looks can get them out of it with a guy that is moving up in life for example.

Sex and Money decide soul mates. That’s the honest truth I had to face for myself. I simply could not date a girl that was living in a very rich household, only the rich guys got the opportunity. And then it is sometimes the other way for girl’s, they had looks or skills that a guy likes and is willing to put out with sex, the rich guys will take such girls as they do not need any money assurance.

So here we get back to the main point after quite a few insightful examples from my own experience and seeing how everyone in my environment does the same, just with a tweak here and there that makes it look different.

When one is looking for a relationship all the true reasons are hidden, love is used as the chemical that we get each other high on to hide the real reasons, as we are secretly laying the path for that real reason to manifest, to get sex. And then money plays a deciding factor in the point where a relationship needs to first manifest before sex can happen. Because a relationship might just trap oneself in an endless cycle of playing the love game and getting stuck in it, for the sex lol.

Don’t get me wrong, relationships do have parts of expressions that come through such as physical enjoyment, enjoying each other in moments of doing certain activities and things like that, but that we can do with anyone at any time. It does not mean it has anything to do with the specific person and that you love them or that they are different, we are all physical human beings with the exact same designs capable of this enjoyment.

It is the relationship constructs that exists currently as it does – which is not best for all, which isn’t best for each being that is participating within it, it isn’t best for anything or anyone as it is totally based on only self-interest, it is designed and molded based on secret desires. And thus it has already decided the entire life of both parties involved, one of two personalities, and these personalities come out once the energy is gone, the fun, and once the real things start happening.

As we start out relationships because we are curious about the other person, and because there is a curiosity and sex underlining the sudden curiosity we then entertain this curiosity through making it a desire to find out what it is, like showing interest in a girl or guy suddenly, wanting to know them and so forth, just to in the end get to sex, which is the curiosity taken to a desire and then an action/outcome, and once the curiosity is satisfied and we now KNOW, there is no more curiosity, no more desire. and sex might still be there. yet after a certain amount of time we start developing new curiosities, new desires, not within the relationship, because the relationship is standing still. Thus we now have a trap, where both partners have presented this false image and started a relationship based on false images. And have to keep it up for a very long time.

Some relationships do not keep it up, but instead it can become a relationship of frustration and irritation and now it goes into blame and regret and all these negative things. And then we start seeing partners cheating or becoming nasty and spiteful and this is what relationships mostly consist of, this internal game the partners are playing with each other. Because there is NO agreement, they have already agreed based on love that they love each other as they are, so no room for change, no room for REAL change. There is no room for actual self-honesty and instead standing as support and assistance for themselves first and then each other. Yet in how a relationship currently starts out and the starting points already being that of dishonesty; it is much more difficult to remove all the secret shit attached and to start with a new beginning.

And how did I come to now stand in an Agreement with another human being? and how have I changed myself extensively within what a “relationship” means? Stay tuned for more in detail bits of stories and perspectives on how I have gone from a relationship to an Agreement and what that means.