Day 298 – To soft To Kind for the Job, Commitments Part 3.

 Day 296 - To Soft To Kind for the Job part 2

I commit myself to when and as I see that I am accessing the Kind and soft character to stop and to breathe and to look at why I am doing it, to assess the point self honestly and what the consequences of my actions will be.

I commit myself to when and as I have assessed myself to direct myself within common sense and self honesty without any energy movement within me and to do what requires to be done.

I commit myself to when and as I access the character playing the roles of being kind and soft to be self honest with myself in the moment to see the consequences of my actions in the moment and to direct myself rather to act where the consequences is what is best and not that of self sabotaging.

I commit myself to when and as I see myself go into fear of confrontation to stop and to breathe and to trust my breathe and to let go of the experience within the moment to not avoid going into the character of soft and kind but to prevent myself from blindly going with it.

I commit myself to when and as I see myself going into the fear of facing conflict to use the knowledge and information I have of “knowing thy self” and to practically apply myself in the moment to prevent myself from falling into the same potholes as the “soft/kind Character” that always have to consequences of me being used and taken advantage of and not standing by principal, seeing and realizing that within playing the character of soft and kind as manipulation I am giving everything else permission to equally manipulate me, give as you would like to receive.

I commit to when and as I see that I am about to open myself up for manipulation through my own actions/words of manipulation to stop and to breathe within the realization that I do not like to be manipulated and thus I must not manipulate but to simply be direct and straight forward.

I commit myself to when and as I see myself confusing being direct and straight forward with being mean and reactive and loud to stop and to breathe and to correct myself through stopping all inner experiences and to focus on the physical here as movement and words and not as energy and reactions that in itself is still manipulation.

I commit myself to when and as I see that there is conflict/confrontations to breathe and to not let any energy move within me, to within this instead focus on resolving the conflict or to face the confrontation.

I commit myself to when and as I see that I want to win a conversation where there is conflict or confrontation to stop and to breathe and to face the reality of what’s going on and not the back chat inner conversation or to follow the energy reactions within me.

I commit myself to when and as I see that others are manipulating me or using me to NOT react or to make it personal for myself, but to breathe and to do the job till it is done. To not compromise myself or my job for the sake of self interest.

I commit myself to when and as I see that others are attacking me in their words or being nasty or mean to NOT take it personal but to breathe and to see within myself what’s within me instead of making it personal and to resolve that which is within me and to breathe till I am clear and standing.

I commit myself to NOT be taken for a fool and to stand up for myself when and as I see that what’s happening isn’t part of the job but simply abuse of and from people, to speak with common sense and not with reactions and FEAR.

I commit myself to when and as I I have to do a job to do everything to get the Job done without morality or personal Ideas/beliefs about myself to keep me from finishing the job.

I commit myself to be assertive within speaking to people.

I commit myself to Not have morality within the system and to try and attempt to play by my rules while I am within the systems rules, seeing and realizing how this compromises and sabotages my effectiveness within the system.

Day 296 – To soft, To Kind for the Job P2

Continuing from Day 295 Charming Character on the Job P1.

So here I am looking at the two words and how I live them, Soft and Kind, I see and I realize that I have lived these two words as a way to Protect myself, within the believe that being Kind and Soft will always shelter me from conflict or being hated or bad gossip or nasty people, I was raised to fear it, I was raised to do those things I fear. So I understand why I fear it and why I have created the Soft and kind characters.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to play the soft character as manipulating others to “like” me as if I am a facebook page, to avoid conflict and confrontations.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear conflict with others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear confrontations from others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear facing myself as the fears and why and how I have accepted and allowed these fears to direct me and drive my life.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see that when I play the soft character as not in fear of being hard on others, that it is actually just me attempting to manipulate the other being to never be hard on me, because I justify it through the back chat of, If I am not hard on you then you cannot be hard on me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear being hard on people.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear others being hard on me and through this fear never be hard on others even when it is necessary and so compromise myself and the other being.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear being hard on others within the believe that I must first know how to be hard on others, seeing and realizing that this is just a justification and a way of manipulating myself to not go there.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear being seen as the hard guy.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear being talked about as the hard guy.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to confuse being hard on people and being hard on myself as being harsh on others and myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see that I must move and direct myself in each breathe here and not within each fear as energy.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to USE Kindness as a way to get people on my side.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to see being kind as the only way of getting people on my side.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to belief that only through manipulation can I get people on my side and thus use kindness and abuse it.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a moral belief that if I am kind I cannot be unkind and have no mercy, seeing and realizing that this is a limitation within what I have to do and that this is a sabotaging point in my life.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear being unkind to others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear the feedback from others if I had to be unkind.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear the minds of others changing about me once I am unkind, seen as being unkind.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to belief that if I do not approach people in a kind matter that they will reject me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to belief that to be normal as myself here as not kind or soft isn’t allowed.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear not having a defense system up when I communicate with others and that they will see right through me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear changing myself to that which is best for all life and that will make a machine ut of me that gets things done where I have no morality and simply common sense and NO fear and simply self honesty.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use kindness and softness to hide me from the world.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use kindness and softness to hide me as the physical from the world as that which is real.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see that when and as I use kindness and softness around others that it is to protect them from my reactions and what I experience within me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see and realize that when and as I play the kind soft character that I am in polarity creating a monster within me. Because the feedback I will get from the kind/soft character will not always be that which I expect back and this creates a lot of doors for demons to crawl into and create back chat and gossip in the head.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see and realize how I create the inner experiences I have of fear and anger and hatred within me through the characters I play in reverse during the day.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to NOT be me and to instead play characters that create more characters that create demons in the head that is dangerous to myself and others and that this is what I try and avoid more and more within playing these characters more and more and every time the character fails The demon grows, because I am creating it, INSTEAD of living self honesty as who I am as the physical not needing a character but myself doing everything breathe by breathe.

To be Continued with Commitments statements next.

Day 295 – Charming Character on the Job P1

Day 295 – Charming Character on the Job P1

In my Job I have been working at for the last two weeks I have already faced a few moments where I had to stand my ground, and not to be soft or kind, as that will not get me anywhere.

So the other day I went a LONGGG distance to deliver papers to a guy for him, the papers had to be filled first at a department then given to him, this never happened because the department required more stuff, the other guy did not get his papers and now it’s a long journey still before all that can happen.

When I went back to my town to my work place, the one women there said to me, Gian you did not try and charm the ladies that side, because charming won’t get you everywhere, you had to speak up and make it happen and you could have gotten it done.

So I saw the point, it was great support and assistance, I am glad she wasn’t shy to tell me that as most people would be.

So the point I am looking at is, believing that charming my way into everything is the only way and being kind and nice, it isn’t a Must way to go, it can be a expression of me, but I must not be bound to it, I have to be able to move myself from that charming kindness/softness to be direct, to be loud, to stand my ground and to get shit done when it is needed.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that Charming myself with everyone will always get me where I need to go and what I need to do.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see that charming as being kind and soft has its limits to how far I can go.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I require to charm people, seeing and realizing that I simply have to breathe and express myself one and equal to and as the situation here.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to limit myself within my communication and how far I can go within my communication through Identifying myself as being that guy that is only charming and thus Chances can be taken with me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see that taking on a character of one quality limits me within the quality of that character, instead I see and I realize that I do not have to take on a character of any sort to talk and communicate with people effectively without friction or conflict happening unnecessary, but that I can instead simply direct myself as myself as a physical being with a physical expression one and equal within what is here that is not limited or confided as a character but that I can be flexible and movable without energy to direct the situation in the moment as required.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be directed by the fear of breaking character when and as I see that I need to stand up for myself and make a point.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see that when and as I take on a character such as “Charming guy” that I also within that create the fear of breaking the character through having to be loud and direct and speaking up, as I have already placed limits on the character and installed the character into others of me giving them permission to fuck around with me, instead I see that it is to not be a charming guy as a character, but that it is to be me in every moment one and equal and to always BREATH and not o create set in stone characters, but instead to create me as Who I am living by principal.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to when and as I have to speak up and to make things happen to go into the fear of breaking the character I was playing in the fear of that If I break the character that other people will also break character and then there will be chaos. Seeing and realizing that the fear is of me fearing that I will break character within reaction that is of energy that causes friction and thus everyone starts having friction and so we have a explosion, instead seeing and realizing that it is to break character within breathing with no energy where it is me directing every movement, every word and not to react but to direct practically.

To be continued on Self forgiveness and Commitment statements.